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Introduction: Mapping Out a Plan for the Rest of My Life and Enjoying the Journey

My Golden Years are an extension of the life I have lived up to retirement which began on December 1, 2011. I have organized this blog to include the top ten relevant topics shown below in the right side column in General Topics. Just click on one and you will see all that I have written on that topic. Click on the Most Current tab for chronological order of all entries.

I have addressed each topic in no particular order other than what is currently on my mind on the day I am posting. I started each topic by describing where I was when I began this blog and then exploring the possibilities of progression and any goals that I would like to meet. After that, I write about the path to reach that goal as it happens. Sometimes I just write about what is happening now.

I welcome any comments and questions either on this blog or email as I travel these paths and hope to share my growth with interested persons who may find some common elements in their own path to the rest of their life. I hope to use my skills as an appraiser for nearly 30 years to continue to observe different perspectives on a subject and reconcile into a conclusion that is of value to me. Please join me whenever you like. Email notice of new posts is no longer available so just bookmark the address.

The Blog Archive tool is helpful to find posts by year. Of most importance to me is the confidence developed in my intuitive skills over the years and it is that part of my character I am trusting to define value in my life. I believe change can be good and I can be enriched by believing in my true self using my intuition. The analytical part of my life no longer has a financial grip and I can let go of what absolutely made sense at the time in favor of what feels right now. I have done a lot of work since this blog began in 2011 and I hope you will join me as I explore this approach in My Golden Years.


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Thursday, June 4, 2026

My Gardens, My World - Final Post (8 of 8)

These final photos are of the backyard areas that stand out from the other areas and are grouped together here.  There are seven other posts previously that include all the gardens.  This is our 40th year in this location. This post includes a native garden, the oak tree area in shade and in sun, and my swing area.

Overview of the backyard native garden area



Overview of the one and only oak tree shade and sun areas.  That's a young redbud tree next to the shed that is quickly making another shade area.



The Native Garden is located where the sidewalk meets the steps.  It is a central location of the backyard gardens.  Everything comes back every year and there has been many different native plants that have come and gone.  Right now everything is filled but the rose verbena looks a little sparse after several years of success.  I will try to add some new plants to refresh.  The fennel is more of an herb but I added it here because it is a host plant for swallowtail butterflies which frequent this native garden.  It does take up too much room as I have already trimmed it in half.  It also spreads seeds too much so I am allowing it to grow in another garden before I remove it here.  

Just below the Native garden along the sidewalk are an Autumn Gold sedum, dark yellow  Stella d'Ora lilies, surprise lilies, and blackberry lilies. The corner had a beautiful yellow St. John's Wort shrub for many years that got too big and needed trimming often and finally died.  There's a tricolor low growing plant new this year that is some kind of succulent, I think.


New Tricolor Plant at Corner


Blue Mist


                 Foxglove Beardtongue (Penstemon digitalis)


Purple Poppy Mallow


Speedwell (aka  Veronica) is a perennial that attracts bees, butterflies, and pollinators so is included in this native garden.  I have blue and red varieties in several places around the landscape as it grows so well. 




I have two colors of yarrow - red and yellow which are likely hybrids that come back well every year.



Rose Verbena next to Slender Mountain Mist (2025)




Coneflowers -  may be a hybrid (2025)


New England Aster is located in the center of the Native Garden and has just been trimmed about one third to keep it from getting too tall as it is in the 2025 fall photo above.  It is a magnet for butterflies!

In the early 2000s, we removed nine oak trees and one cedar tree as they were all in places that could threaten our house in a storm.  We left this one oak tree in the middle of the backyard.  We had many native redbud trees planted 30 years ago.  We live at the edge of town that is bordered by heavy timbered areas and a river in a remote rural area.  There are plenty of trees and wildlife in a natural setting for miles and miles!  



This is an overview of the area directly under the oak tree which is partly shaded.  I added the black metal fence this year to keep two old rose bushes supported as the original wooden fence deteriorated.  Under the tree is mostly lirope that bloom a blue spike flower in late summer and orange day lilies.  There are several native blazing star plants that rise above the lirope here.  



The old rose bushes came from two different slips taken from a country cemetery fence and planted in this location soon after we moved here.  They are very hardy and highly scented.  



Old Heirloom Rose



Along the lower rock wall is a white honeysuckle; likely non-native but highly scented so I keep it trimmed.  It can be a problem to remove because it is growing in the rock wall.  I have made peace with it.



Inside the new black metal fence area I had  added some poppies which came back this year and will keep seeding itself.  It is a good place to let it go.  I also planted sunflowers, nasturtium, and purple poppy mallow which all came back on their own this year. 


Still mostly under the oak tree but in more sun are 3-tiers of garden areas terraced downhill.   This garden has an Autumn Joy sedum, purple speedwell, and red salvia.  The lower garden was full of fancy irises for about 20 years but have been impacted by a flame-thrower last year and only about half came back.  I will be purchasing some new stock this fall to fill in the area and instructed the flame-thrower operator to stay out of my flower beds! Apparently, there were too many weeds for too long a time after the irises were done blooming here.  


From the sidewalk looking downhill to the street, you can see 3-tiers of gardens under the oak tree.  It is partially shaded with full sun to the left at the boxwood hedge and below.  Close to the sidewalk are Stella d'Ora lilies.  The middle garden is a gravesite for one of our pet dachshunds of 15 years named Daffney.  There's a yellow trumpet lily, native blue mist, and blue batchelor's buttons growing here.  The circle garden at the bottom of the hill next to the shed is the gravesite for Daffney's mother, Sassy, who also lived 15 years.  This year we have planted sweet potato vines and cannas with the daffodils bulbs.  


Below the boxwood hedge is another excess plant garden with deteriorating railroad ties.  Two volunteer fennel plants came up this year and will likely stay here as I consider removing the original fennel plant from the Native Garden.  There is a Mexican sunflower plant in the middle.  Also in this garden is a New England aster, Shasta daisies, red salvia, and hollyhocks.  There is no plan here and anything goes...or stays!




One of many little lizards that lives in this area of deteriorating wood, rocks, and dense boxwood hedge.  



Back to my Happy Place where I will end this post from the perspective of my Swing Area where I spend a lot of time when the work is done and I can enjoy My Gardens, My World.  

One of the original oak trees has a rotting stump remaining.  Over the years it has been part of the garden mostly supporting the native coral honeysuckle vine which has been encouraged to depend on the trellis now. This stump has also been the site for many creative projects such as a gnome home and fairy tree complete with all kinds of fun ornaments. It has now been cleaned up and awaits yet another undetermined project; likely various succulents growing in the numerous holes. I will think about it soon.  There are various succulents in abundance here including hens & chickens.  Lemon balm and catnip grow well here and come back every year.  I also planted marigolds this year.  Close by are native hibiscus and self-seeding Mexican sunflowers later in the summer.



I call these succulents Donkey Tails


   

                          Native Pink Hibiscus (summer/fall)                                      

Mexican Sunflower with Monarch Butterfly (late summer/fall)


This is also Bobi Kitty's Happy Place with his Catnip Bed

I hope you have enjoyed the tour of My Gardens, My World.  Come back anytime for a visit.  Maybe you have a special place you have made to be in your world and understand how important it is to have one.  Right now, the world is in a dark side but there can be hope for a new day and for the light to shine again!  ✌💗 

"The world will not find peace until power learns compassion.  Let us demand leaders who choose love over fear, art over war, and humanity over destruction.  It is time to return to the real garden." ~ Paul McCartney




Wednesday, June 3, 2026

My Gardens, My World - Backyard Terraced Beds & Excess Areas


This overview of the upper terraced garden beds from the carport also shows the swing area which is my Happy Place to rest and view My Gardens, My World. 

There are four original vegetable gardens 4' x 20' that were built shortly after we moved here in 1986.  Treated wood was used but the interiors were lined with heavy plastic with the bottom left open. The wood has deteriorated over the 40 years. I'm sure the treated chemicals have leached out long ago. It is unlikely we will replace these four beds. We never used pesticides and only use organic fertilizer on the plants we eat.

There are two concrete strawberry beds built in recent years.  The swing area is lower than the area behind it that is used for extra parking. Native coral honeysuckle vine is planted to cover the trellis.  Below it is a variety of succulents, native hibiscus, catnip, and marigolds.  Between the swing and the steps is a steep clay hill planted in common orange lilies, allium, surprise lilies, and lemon balm.  

There is a 4-tier concrete decorative block garden below the carport planted in a variety of lilies, elephant ears, poppies, and Mexican sunflowers (Tithonia).  Below the strawberry beds is a native garden with blue mist, yarrow, and slender mountain mist showing in the above photo.



Overview of all terraced garden beds viewed from the shed.  On the left is an old excess garden made from treated railroad ties used for a variety of plants.  This year's come backs are Shasta daisies, red salvia, Mexican sunflowers, New England aster, fennel, and hollyhocks.  Above this garden is a boxwood hedge along the sidewalk.  On the other side of the sidewalk is the native garden also made of treated railroad ties.



Vegetable Garden #1 has variety lettuce, spinach, leeks, cucumbers, marigolds, asparagus, and nasturtium



Vegetable Garden #2 has leeks, carrots, Italian oregano, spinach, cucumber, marigolds, and currents



Vegetable Garden #3 has radishes, green beans, tomatoes, green onions, and beets 



Garden #4 looking toward the property line.  It has 3 kinds of squash, dill, cilantro, thornless blackberries, sunflowers, and a variety of wildflowers including native milkweed honey vine which is the host plant for monarch butterflies as they travel through in the fall (Supers). Most everything comes back every year.




Garden #4 view looking toward the shed has some old irises on a rocky slope.  This is the bottom end of the terraced areas.  The shed is even raised up on the backside utilizing storage underneath.


Garden #4 Batchelor Buttons



Garden #4 has a variety of wildflowers like blue batohleor buttons, four o'clocks, and thornless blackberries on the fence.



Garden #4 Thornless Blackberries in Bloom



Garden #4 Wildflowers in Bloom



This is an Excess Area that is located on the other side of the shed that defines the lowest level of the backyard.  Between this area and the street is a steep slope full of yucca plants and sumac.  This is a place for excess lily varieties, irises, and Bells of Ireland.  The recently mulched empty area had the early surprise lily (aka naked lilies) greenery that has died back and will produce the pick blooms in August.




Belles of Ireland, Irises, and Soloman's Seal



Surprise Lilies (aka Naked Ladies) in August



Excess lilies from thinning out main beds include a variety of day lilies, trumpets, Cala lilies, Asiatics, and whatever else needs a home.  The deer frequent this area to nibble the buds and have even left a little fawn here once that I know of while mama goes out and about.



This is a rocky slope between Garden #4 and the property line.  I have several native gooseberry bushes here that produce.  In view is a structure built that I call "a gravel dispenser."  It is a tall wood box full of gravel that was built for target practice that we never use.  This whole area had gravel at one time but has grown over in grass and weeds that is whipped 2-3 times a year now.


View from shed looking toward property line.  This is the edge where the terraces end and the steep slope drops to the street.  There is a wood gate that blocks the view of the dump from above where we burn stuff in a protected area. Makes it easy to wheelbarrow refuse from the landscape downhill.



Back up the hill between Garden #1 and the lilac hedge property line is the compost bin.  Above it is the stairway from the lower driveway.  This is the path from the kitchen to the compost with scraps that go into the gardens eventually.  The blue barrel is for water that can be used for the gardens with a downhill hose.  We have city water so we fill it for the chlorine to dissipate before putting it on the gardens.  Rainwater is best, of course, but it helps a little to have it.  There are  seven water hydrants available for the backyard and one for the front yard.  That's oregano to the left of the compost bin on a rocky slope.  Below it is a dill and marigold garden.



The two strawberry terraced gardens are only about three years old made of poured concrete.  The netting works okay but I would like to find an easier way to protect them and get to the ripe berries that need picking often in spring.
 


Ripe Strawberries!  This year I picked enough strawberries each week in May for both of us to each have a serving everyday!  There will be more now and then in June also.

Friday, May 29, 2026

My Gardens, My World - Front Yard; Tier 1, Driveway & Below Carport Areas

 


The front yard is the main window to My Gardens, My World. I enjoy the view from the bistro set just outside the front door.  From here I can observe the sunrise as it illuminates the terraced front lawn and begins my day. Bobi Kitty has joined me for over 15 years and it is where I was when we first met in early June.  I have no Idea where he came from but estimated he was only about 5-6 weeks old. He came up to me every morning to sit on my lap; then I fed him. He decided to stay and became my garden kitty for the season. He chose to come inside when the weather got cold and was let outside whenever he wanted.  The following spring he was shot by a neighbor and lost a hind leg.  I took care of all the vet bills and got him a collar.  This 3-legged American Bobtail belongs in my world now.  He is a loving, grateful cat who stays very close to the house outside but is inside most of the time.  He is my joy and comfort.



The front entrance to the house is a morning sun area that is a good location for potted plants.  This year I like dark red and lavender geraniums here. The aloe vera plant is very large and is wheeled to the lower level inside each fall when the weather gets cold. I have had it for about ten years now when it was much smaller and part of a huge plant; a gift from my maid-of-honor of our wedding, Jolene Hamblen in Iowa.The low level ground cover to the left (winter creeper) keeps it's dark green color over winter but needs to be trimmed twice a year or it will take over more than I want.  There is creeping thyme between the bricks that I planted about 15 years ago and trimmed up a lot last year to prepare for reseeding soon.



This Japanese Maple must be at least 45 years old as it was well established when we bought this 1978-built house in 1986.  I keep it trimmed below the roof and off the sidewalk.  The birds love to come to it all times of the year especially when the feeders are put up on the eave for hummingbirds and orioles.  It is covered with Christmas lights to enjoy through the picture window in season.  Below it is a hosta that blooms purple flowers. 



There are additional potted plants along the base of the English ivy covered wall with sedum on top.  This is a lantana annual plant that the butterflies love. The creeping thyme has purple or white blooms and tare a low growing plant with a wonderful scent when walked on.  It can be mowed late in the summer or fall if they get too tall and spindly.  This actually releases the seed to continue for the next season but the main plants live through the winter.  I am adding new seed for the first time soon to refresh after the initial planting in 2011.



Crimson Flame Geranium 



View of both front yard tiers from the bistro table at sunrise



View of front yard patio from the northeast property line looking southeast.



View of the front yard looking northeast from the house corner along the redbud tree property line.



View of front yard patio from the driveway at house corner looking toward redbud tree property line.  The patio brick was originally dry-set laid in the late 1990s by a contractor, David Spotlla.  I had obtained the free brick on a job site of a razed 100 year old building in Mt. Vernon, Missouri.  I have replaced a couple dozen bricks with new brick as they crumbled.



View of the front yard from the corner of tier1 and the driveway.



View of the tier 1 lawn area bordering the driveway toward the house front.  There is an Autumn Joy Sedum and a Russian Sage along this edge.  The lawn was refurbished this spring with a seed called Midnight Black Fescue.



This corner of the front yard has two lavender plants and a heather that come back most years.  I have replanted new lavender plants several times as they seem to do well for about three years before replacing.  I have a new geranium here now too.  This is the second year of the heather which should bloom a bright purple again.  English ivy covers the whole wall but I keep it trimmed to expose some of the rock.  There is another hosta that blooms purple flowers in summer at the corner.  Also at this corner are pink surprise lilies (aka naked ladies) that will pop up in late summer.



More of the view of the patio and tier 1 wall which has solar lights.



Below the pink dogwood tree are annual impatiens after spring bulbs of red tulips and a variety of hyacinths were done blooming.  



SunPatiens Tropical Salmon and New Guinea Magenta tolerate some sun and are hardier than regular impatiens.




Red tulips have come and gone by mid-May.  These bulbs stay in the ground and are over 20 years old now.  They have been divided and spread out a few years ago from the original.  There are many random small grape hyacinths and crocus in this area as well as between the redbud tree row ad lawn.  Love the early color to welcome spring!



This corner of the rock wall is in the shade of the pink dogwood and the redbud trees.  It is a popular watering place for all kinds of birds and critters including Bobi Kitty who likes laying in the cool grass nearby overseeing his kingdom.  Squirrels, bunnies, turtles, deer, turkey, and foxes have also been seen drinking.



Other popular spots for wildlife are the bird feeders both for seed and suet on the other corner by the driveway and the feeders hanging on the eave which can be viewed and enjoyed from the patio and through the picture window.  Hummingbirds and orioles come to the feeders hanging on the eaves.  I have identified about 60 species of birds that have come to my front yard over the yeas!



In the middle of the front property line are the driveway gardens and the mailbox area.  There are three main tiers with at least seven levels.  The larger and lowest level is the alternate driveway and main access to the backyard down some steps behind the fence.  There is a big drop off behind the obelisk which is on the side of the carport.  This view from the street highlights a blue ballon plant and a blue speedwell in front along with the yellowing blooming sedum.  There is a little bit of a creeping juniper remaining under the mailbox that is probably 30 years old and once covered this whole front area next to the street.  



There are three levels to the first tier along the main driveway from the obelisk to the street.  Gladiolas are all along the wall between the first tier and second tier and the rest filled with dahlias.  I left these bulbs in the ground last year and to my surprise they did come back likely because this is a protected area with the wall.  There have been many different plants over the years in this location and I like to make changes.  But now I have mostly plants that come back each year.  The next level below the yellow yarrow I have new Shasta daisies with purple and red petunias (annuals) which are highly scented. The next lower level (in front) also has Shasta daisies in the middle but red Echinacea and blue ballon plants on either side.  Can you see the red, white, and blue theme going on here? 



The view from the obelisk and carport is breathtaking!  Morning glories and hyacinth bean vines will be growing on the obelisk soon. The Belles of Ireland and yellow yarrow fill the rest of this area.



The Belles of Ireland are self seeding and have these bell blooms growing all along the main stems.


 
Yellow Yarrow



Panama Red Echinacea are new this year as I wanted a red bloom all summer that comes back each year.



White Shasta Daisies are new this year although I had a much taller version here before and wanted them shorter.  



Blue Ballon plants do very well here and bloom all season.  The one I planted several years ago below the mailbox is very showy.  They need to be dead-headed almost everyday to keep producing but it is so worth it as I walk to the mailbox.



The blue speedwell has been here many years and is also very showy next to the mailbox in the lower tier.



View of the driveway gardens from the lowest level that can be used as an additional driveway.  It was once all gravel but is mowed as grass and weeds took over.  The plants seen here are self-seeding, multicolor four-o'clocks that I allow to grow in this one spot.  It would take over if I didn't remove the wayward seedlings early.  The lower tier has the multicolor dahlias with the red gladiolas behing them.  I have to aggressively trim down the dahlias so the gladiolas can be seen from this side.  At the rear end of this garden below the obelisk are some Asiatic lilies about ready to bloom. There is a big drop off next to the old mailbox with is used to store some extra clippers to have handy as there are wonderful flowers to cut here all season!



The dahlias are just beginning to bloom.



Native coral honeysuckle grow on the lattice which surrounds a garden swing that faces towards the back yard gardens.  I had severely trimmed up this vine last year as there was much dead wood inside as it covered the lattice.  I also got two more vines separated and replanted nearby.  This is the first place I see hummingbirds in the spring and know when to put out the feeders.




Full view of the lowest level boarding the city street with the property line to the left.  It is very steep behind the fenced area. We had high clay content dirt loads dumped here to level with the street and gravel on top in the early years.  This was the last of the 22 loads (river bottom dirt) as most of the loads went to the back yard accessing through here with a dump truck and tractor to level.  We got our dirt and gravel from local Laurel Pearson and the tractor work by Don Ginnings to put it in the terraces as we built them.  Gras and weed have covered the gravel over the years to where we just mow it.  The fence was built to provide privacy from the street of our spacious gardens in the back yard.  The lattice portion has some hyacinth bean vines and morning glories to cover which die back after season.  The open part has a stairway to the back yard.  This year we are starting some boysenberry plants at the base of the fence on the left.  I hope they do well.  The fence portion parallel to the street open up to access and load our kayaks as we can back up our pickup or trailer easily.
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Steps from the lowest level driveway to the back yard gardens.  Storm took out some of the lattice work a couple years ago as well as removing a beautiful fragrant white flowering vine that was here for many years.  It is unlikely that it will all be replaced.
There are hostas, orange day lilies, and vinca on either side of this sidewalk.


Orange Day Lilies



This is the southwest property line as viewed from the street.  It shows a steep incline which was what the whole yard was like when we moved here in 1986.  Most of this property line has a lilac bush row from the fence area to the last terraced walls near the bottom of the hill.  I planted 20 lilac 6" slips in 2000 which was the year my daughter graduated from high school.  They had a major refurbishing this past spring and did not bloom much mostly due to weather conditions.  I expect a second lite bloom in the fall.  


There are also some old irises, day lilies, vinca, and a crepe myrtle bush between the lilacs and the kayak storage.  This spring I improved a step-down access from the backyard to this boundary where the lilacs begin.


Since I started this post, we had a lot of rain that brought out many of the blooms that did not show a short time ago when I took the other photos.  I am including many plants below the carport that bloom at different times but mainly May-July.  By late July there will be bright orange Mexican sunflowers that will reach up to the carport rail and dominate until frost.  


Haney's Double Poppies



Svengali Asiatic Lilies


 
 Pink Marquise Asiatic Lilies



 Lilium Regale Trumpet Lilies (highly scented)



Black Beauty Oriental Lilies bloom in July and August 
(lightly scented)


Blueberry plants are in full sun just below the corner of the carport and the backyard with the first fruit now in its 3rd year.